Navigating life as a woman & mom in recovery, one day at a time.

Recovery

Defying The Voice

I want to write. “What’s the point?” Hush. My words matter. My story matters. Doesn’t it? You’re a narcissist. Self-absorbed. Other people don’t have to celebrate making it through life without getting drunk. Other people just deal with their problems quietly, they don’t have to bleed out all over the internet to validate themselves. Do…

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Staying Sane In a Soberly Divided Marriage

Alison of From Wine to Fine is coming up on her one year anniversary in sobriety, and I’m so excited to share this guest post! I sent her a few questions as prompts, and I love how she took it a step further to give some seriously helpful insight on living in a “soberly divided”…

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It’s Ok To Just Keep Showing Up This Year

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It’s a new year as I write this post. 2018. Somehow, it feels like just another day. Maybe because it is just another day, hm? My biggest achievement in 2017 is that I stayed sober for each of the past 365 days. I’m not one to knock New Year’s resolutions or goals. Anything that kickstarts…

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How I Stay Sober Through The Holidays

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Yep. It’s that time of year. Look, let’s be real. I’m an alcoholic. Every time of the year could be a difficult time to stay sober, if I’m being honest. It doesn’t have to be, but temptation doesn’t discriminate. Even if you don’t identify as an alcoholic, those of us who choose to get and…

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Things To Consider Before Coming Out As Sober

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When I decided to quit drinking, I wasn’t sure how to tell anybody, or if I even should tell anybody. Frankly, if I could have stayed sober without telling a single person about it, I would have. I was nervous about telling my boyfriend at the time (now husband), that I’d become a teetotaler. He…

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My Journey From Shame to Sobriety

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This is an excerpt from a post that I wrote for the wonderful Holl & Lane magazine in May 2017. “My journey to sobriety has been twisted, stubborn, and miraculous. Once upon a time, I could take a drink or leave it. Sometimes, I try to remember what may have flipped that switch. It’s almost…

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3 Ways I Focus on Solutions, Not Problems

The kids won’t go to sleep. The neighbor’s dog won’t stop barking. The HOA fees are due and I’m broke. The IRS won’t leave me alone. My child is sick. The hot water heater broke. That person won’t just do the right thing. Ugh, what a day. Mommy needs to unwind. Pop, pour, sip, gulp,…

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When You Miss The Anticipation of The Drink

When you quit drinking, the world doesn’t quit drinking with you. That’s the first hard lesson that I learned over 2 years ago, and it’s a lesson that I still have to remember sometimes. When I first got sober, I often missed the anticipation of the first drink. When I drank, I was always looking…

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Tackling My Addiction to Social Media

“Taking a break” from social media isn’t nearly as intense as it is from drugs or alcohol, but it’s still not easy for me. A lot has been written about the advantages and disadvantages of social media, by people much smarter and more educated than myself. I’m not going to get into the statistics and…

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