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“I was a late bloomer. But anyone who blooms at all, ever, is very lucky. ”

- Sharon Olds

4 Ways To Overcome Perfectionism

April 23, 2017

What is perfectionism? Short answer: paralysis. Whether it’s visible or not on the outside, perfectionism often looks like chaos and disorder. It’s the exact opposite of what we strive to…

Never Good Enough: The Futility of Striving to Meet Others’ Expectations

April 18, 2017

Note from Ashley: I asked Randy to write a guest post for me, after coming across his book and story in a Facebook group. His post on his blog, The…

Sometimes It’s All We Can Do

April 3, 2017

Sometimes it’s all we can do to get out of bed. To shower. Make the bed. Sometimes it’s all we can do to keep showing up. To return that call.…

Alcohol Is Feeding Our Anxiety, Not Calming It

April 2, 2017

“I deserve a break,” is a thought that ran through my head on a regular basis. My chest was always tight. I burst into tears at the slightest provocation. Everything…

Staying Sober For The Ones Who Suffer

March 23, 2017

Years ago, a friend of mine shared out of the blue that she quit drinking. She joined AA and started writing about it. At the time, I was still drinking…

22 Months of Sobriety, One Day At a Time

March 7, 2017

I’m 22 months sober today. Woot woot! *confetti* Top – taken within the past 30 days. Sober, silly, grateful. Bottom left – 2013. Bottom right – 2010. Blacked out in…

Why I’m Happy To Be Angry: Recognizing Types of Anger

March 5, 2017

Before I quit drinking, I wouldn’t know I was angry until the tears started flowing. Yes, I had to be in tears before I knew I was upset about something.…

8 Harsh Truths You Need to Know During Your Divorce

March 4, 2017

Divorce is terrible. No matter how many jokes you hear about it, or how many people celebrate once it’s final, it’s a big deal for most of us. First, the necessary…

Anxiety is a Big, Stupid, Ugly Liar

March 3, 2017

Anxiety shows up in my life in the weirdest of ways. It’s not always panic attacks and meltdowns. Sometimes, it’s simply hiding. When I feel overwhelmed and anxious, I isolate…

No More Fear: Ignore the Stigma, Share Your Story

February 20, 2017

Before I quit drinking, I only knew one other person who actively chose sobriety over excessive drinking. One of my relatives had been to AA and sporadic recovery programs, but…

Ugh, Do We Really Have to be Experts?

February 18, 2017

I keep writing and giving up. I’ve started no less than 20 posts this week, only to quit one sentence or paragraph in. They’re still in drafts, in case inspiration…

How Learning to Build Websites Changed My Life

February 15, 2017

This is an excerpt from a guest post I wrote for Color U Bold. Read the entire post here! I never thought of myself as a creative. My friends were creatives.…

You Don’t Have to Be Perfect. Be Present.

February 10, 2017

I had to drop something off at my girls’ school this morning, and as I pulled up, I noticed the parking lot was full all the way to the street. There…

Why I Quit Drinking

January 22, 2017

Around two years ago, I had an epiphany. I’ve written about my decision to quit drinking elsewhere, but it’s time to talk about it here. My first child made her…

It’s Time to Show Yourself Some Tough Love

January 19, 2017

My kids will tell you that I am a “tough love” kind of mom. They’ll probably tell you other things, but you can’t believe everything you hear (unless it’s good…


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