Navigating life as a woman & mom in recovery, one day at a time.

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“I was a late bloomer. But anyone who blooms at all, ever, is very lucky. ”

- Sharon Olds

What Does It Mean To “Never Question The Decision”?

September 19, 2017

Not one drink. No matter what. I’m a stubborn woman at times. Shocking, right? Well, it’s a blessing and a curse. When it comes to sobriety, it has been a…

Dear Self: Read This When You Want a Drink

September 13, 2017

This is a letter to myself that I wrote in March 2016 (around 10 months sober), to keep and read when I needed it. I’ve read it more than a…

How I Stayed Sober for The First 30 Days

September 7, 2017

May 5, 2015 was the last day I drank alcohol. I don’t always remember a lot of specifics from my recovery journey, but I do remember the first 30 days.…

3 Actions To Help Overcome Anxiety

September 3, 2017

Anxiety is a funny thing. Sometimes it looks like anger, overthinking, people pleasing, or codependency. Fear can be a good thing, though. Don’t drive 100 mph, you could die. Don’t…

My Pros & Cons for Taking Medication in Sobriety

August 26, 2017

When I quit drinking, I stopped all other substances of any kind, prescribed or otherwise. For a while. At 10 months sober, I got an impacted wisdom tooth as my…

We Will Not Regret The Past – Really

August 24, 2017

“We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.” Even as my eyes struggled to open, waves of regret would start crashing against my entire…

Why Not Just One Drink?

August 16, 2017

It’s 5:42 am, and I’m writing this because I’m too tired to think and this seemed easier than trying to write my book. Honesty is the best policy, guys. I…

When Comparison to Yourself is the Thief of Joy

August 13, 2017

There’s a thought that always runs through my head, every day, all the time: “You can do this better.” Continuous improvement is important to me, and probably to you too.…

What If I Told You That It Doesn’t Have to Make Sense?

August 10, 2017

“The one thing that really holds Logicians back is their restless and pervasive fear of failure. Logician personalities are so prone to reassessing their own thoughts and theories, worrying that…

9 Tips for Surviving and Thriving In a High-Conflict Custody Battle

August 3, 2017

Custody battles are the worst. When my ex-husband and I separated in January 2014, the divorce wasn’t final until January 2015. That meant an entire year of accusations, fear, anxiety,…

Anxiety: The Thorn in My Flesh

July 20, 2017

“Therefore, in order to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord…

My (Not) Drinking Diary for A Girl & Tonic

July 18, 2017

Laurie at A Girl & Tonic asked me awhile ago if I would be interested in contributing to her (Not) Drinking Diary series, and to tell the truth, I was…

4 Stages of an Epic Martyr’s Meltdown

July 17, 2017

There will be gifs in this post because gifs make me smile, and we could all use more smiles. When my kids don’t want to clean up or do something…

The Benefits of Socializing Without Alcohol

July 14, 2017

The Early Sobriety posts were originally written in LiveJournal, either privately or filtered to a very small group of close friends. Some are slightly edited to protect other people’s privacy,…

On the Edge of a Relapse at Two Years Sober

July 10, 2017

Two days ago, I poured myself a glass of whiskey. If you follow me on Instagram and have seen any of my posts, you’ve seen me on the edge. I’m…