Navigating life as a woman & mom in recovery, one day at a time.

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“I was a late bloomer. But anyone who blooms at all, ever, is very lucky. ”

- Sharon Olds

A Woman of Extremes

April 1, 2018

From my private journal, May 10, 2015: “This is the first time that I felt even mildly confident that I could quit, the first time in a long time that…

A Sober Birthday: 32 Life Lessons

March 29, 2018

Birthdays feel a lot different as I get older. It’s just another day, really. Not because I’m depressed about aging or anything, but the celebratory nature of it just isn’t…

Defying The Voice

March 6, 2018

I want to write. “What’s the point?” Hush. My words matter. My story matters. Doesn’t it? You’re a narcissist. Self-absorbed. Other people don’t have to celebrate making it through life…

No More Excuses: A Reminder to Put In The Work

January 14, 2018

“Do as I say, not as I do.” I had an epiphany last night. My 9 year old daughter and I had a serious talk about her grades, and the…

Staying Sane In a Soberly Divided Marriage

January 6, 2018

Alison of From Wine to Fine is coming up on her one year anniversary in sobriety, and I’m so excited to share this guest post! I sent her a few…

It’s Ok To Just Keep Showing Up This Year

January 2, 2018

It’s a new year as I write this post. 2018. Somehow, it feels like just another day. Maybe because it is just another day, hm? My biggest achievement in 2017…

I Ate a Salad, Have I Lost Weight Yet?

December 22, 2017

I’ve been eating pretty healthy for about a week now. Woohoo, go me! Right? Well. Here’s the thing: I haven’t lost any weight in the last 24 hours, and all…

I Stopped Apologizing For Not Wearing Makeup

December 17, 2017

“Sorry I’m not wearing makeup, it’s been one of those days.” I’m somewhat embarrassed that it’s taken me this long to stop apologizing for my face. The last few times…

Dear Self: There Are Some Things You Need to Know

December 9, 2017

A letter I wrote to myself after a bit of a meltdown: Alright, Ashley. There are some things you need to know about how to live. You don’t really know…

“Mom, Do You Still Want to Drink Sometimes?”

November 26, 2017

“How long have you been sober, Mom?” It’s a little weird to hear that from a child’s mouth, but that’s my world now. My oldest daughter is 11 years old.…

How I Stay Sober Through The Holidays

November 22, 2017

Yep. It’s that time of year. Look, let’s be real. I’m an alcoholic. Every time of the year could be a difficult time to stay sober, if I’m being honest.…

Gifts Under $30 For Women In Recovery

November 18, 2017

Do you know a woman in recovery? I have a hunch that a fair number of you can answer yes to that (either for yourself, or others). Well. I actually got…

Things To Consider Before Coming Out As Sober

November 15, 2017

When I decided to quit drinking, I wasn’t sure how to tell anybody, or if I even should tell anybody. Frankly, if I could have stayed sober without telling a…

My Journey From Shame to Sobriety

November 13, 2017

This is an excerpt from a post that I wrote for the wonderful Holl & Lane magazine in May 2017. “My journey to sobriety has been twisted, stubborn, and miraculous.…

3 Ways I Focus on Solutions, Not Problems

November 12, 2017

The kids won’t go to sleep. The neighbor’s dog won’t stop barking. The HOA fees are due and I’m broke. The IRS won’t leave me alone. My child is sick.…

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