Posts by ashley
Dear Self: Read This When You Want a Drink
This is a letter to myself that I wrote in March 2016 (around 10 months sober), to keep and read when I needed it. I’ve read it more than a few times since then. Dear Self, If you’re reading this, I assume you are struggling to quiet the voice in your head that says you…
Read MoreSlow Down and Listen to the Voice of God
Sometimes, God’s voice sounds like an elderly man at a coffee shop. Today, I had a meeting with a friend to talk about building a website for her business (one of my top 3 favorite topics). Toward the end of our chat, with our notepads out and pens jotting quick reminders to ourselves, an older gentleman in…
Read More4 Life Lessons I Learned the Hard Way
3 years ago today, my world came crashing down. 3 years ago today, the blinders were ripped from my eyes. I still had a long way to go before I let God clear the scales off my eyes completely, but it started 3 years ago. When my entire world crashed down, I didn’t know what…
Read MoreLife After Divorce: Surviving Holiday Separation Anxiety
Divorce is a level of hell that I wouldn’t wish on anybody. It’s one thing to separate from a person that you can no longer be with. It’s another thing entirely to be separated from your children for weeks at a time. The holiday custody schedules can be brutal, especially if you don’t have an amicable situation with…
Read MoreSerenity and Responsibility
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is,…
Read MoreI’m Alive
I’m learning what it means to be alive. Truly alive. Personal responsibility is something that I value tremendously in myself, as well as in every relationship in my life. I don’t connect very well with those who don’t hold themselves accountable for their behavior. So, it makes sense that I haven’t even connected with myself in the past, due…
Read MoreTurning Thirty Sober
I wrote this post and made it private before I ever really shared this blog. Pulling it out of “hiding” today (Feb 2017). Just a few short thoughts on sobriety and hitting the big 3-0. I’ll be 30 years old in 10 days.This will be my first sober birthday in about a decade (excluding pregnancies), I think.…
Read More5 Months Sober: This Gets Boring Sometimes
I can be thankful to be sober, I can enjoy being sober, and I can also be bored. It’s ok to be bored. At least, I hope it is, because I’m just going to embrace it and get over it. There’s no “right” that I have to be entertained, or be entertaining, at all times.…
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