From the Ashes, We Rise

If you struggle with perfectionism, chaos, and disorder - welcome to the club. We have raw cookie dough and laundry piles everywhere. Whether you are working through recovery, PTSD, divorce, or you are simply overwhelmed in general, you are not alone. Positivity is important, but so is honesty.

Whatever your story and whatever your goals, there is a place for you here. Welcome to the beautiful chaos of life!

4 Ways To Overcome Perfectionism

overcoming perfectionism

What is perfectionism? Short answer: paralysis. Whether it’s visible or not on the outside, perfectionism often looks like chaos and disorder. It’s the exact opposite of what we strive to achieve. Perfectionism shows up in my life as an immobilizing fear of failure. It looks a lot like depression because it is so closely linked.…

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Never Good Enough: The Futility of Striving to Meet Others’ Expectations


Note from Ashley: I asked Randy to write a guest post for me, after coming across his book and story in a Facebook group. His post on his blog, The Question I Never Asked Myself, hit me in all the emotions and I may or may not have teared up. I asked him to expand on…

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Sometimes It’s All We Can Do


Sometimes it’s all we can do to get out of bed. To shower. Make the bed. Sometimes it’s all we can do to keep showing up. To return that call. Answer that text. Sometimes it’s all we can do to put one foot in front of the other. To check the mail. Bring cupcakes to…

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Staying Sober For The Ones Who Suffer.


Years ago, a friend of mine shared out of the blue that she quit drinking. She joined AA and started writing about it. At the time, I was still drinking and joking about the frequency like any other overwhelmed mom (I thought). I never knew anybody in my life who quit drinking. You either drank or…

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22 Months of Sobriety, One Day At a Time

one day at a time dog birthday sober

I’m 22 months sober today. Woot woot! *confetti* Top – taken within the past 30 days. Sober, silly, grateful. Bottom left – 2013. Bottom right – 2010. Blacked out in both. Miserable. I have thoughts. This won’t be very structured writing, I’m letting it flow freely and disjointedly. First thought is, do you have any…

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Why I’m Happy To Be Angry: Recognizing Types of Anger

feeling angry in recovery lion roar

Before I quit drinking, I wouldn’t know I was angry until the tears started flowing. Yes, I had to be in tears before I knew I was upset about something. That’s how disconnected from myself and my emotions I was. For better or for worse, that is no longer the case. Now, I know when…

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8 Harsh Truths You Need to Know During Your Divorce

tornado home high conflict divorce

Divorce is terrible. No matter how many jokes you hear about it, or how many people celebrate once it’s final, it’s a big deal for most of us. First, the necessary disclaimer: I’m not an attorney, a therapist, or any other kind of professional. Take what applies (if any), leave the rest. I’m simply a screw-up…

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Anxiety is a Big, Stupid, Ugly Liar

anxiety is a liar

Anxiety shows up in my life in the weirdest of ways. It’s not always panic attacks and meltdowns. Sometimes, it’s simply hiding. When I feel overwhelmed and anxious, I isolate myself. It’s not always obvious unless maybe you’ve known me for awhile. I may ignore a text or two, for no reason other than the…

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No More Fear: Ignore the Stigma, Share Your Story

getting sober smell the flowers

Before I quit drinking, I only knew one other person who actively chose sobriety over excessive drinking. One of my relatives had been to AA and sporadic recovery programs, but I never thought much about it myself. I didn’t know anybody who was happily sober, and assumed that people who claimed to be sober were…

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Ugh, Do We Really Have to be Experts?

progress not perfection

I keep writing and giving up. I’ve started no less than 20 posts this week, only to quit one sentence or paragraph in. They’re still in drafts, in case inspiration strikes, but instead I’m going to let it alllll out. There is a question that plays through my mind every time I sit down to…

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Hi, I'm Ashley. I'm a sober mom, writer, and website designer. I write about motherhood, self-improvement, recovery, the chaos of life, and mental health (to name a few topics). Gratitude is the name of the game, with some humor and ranting thrown in every now and then for good measure.

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